Choleric Wife and Phlegmatic Husband: An Interview
Maryanne and Patrick Brown have been married for thirteen years. At the time that we spoke to them, they had just had their fifth child. Patrick was on paternity leave and the couple spoke about how they were managing the household tasks together. With Maryanne as a choleric and Patrick a phlegmatic, this couple has had to find ways to agree that is less argumentative (Maryanne) and more forward (Patrick). As they reflect on what they have learned in their years of marriage, they present to us the beautiful synergy of what it looks like to bring the best out of our spouse.
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